Wednesday, January 26, 2011

WIth Mixed Emotions...

My son leaves today for a new job. His house is sub-leased and all his stuff is packed up. He's ready to "Get outta Dodge" (well in this case San Luis Obispo) I am very proud of him as this is quite an career achievement. He is a computer engineer and will be working with several other top engineers on an inventive programing concept.

While I am excited for him in many ways ... I still will miss him greatly. He will be moving 250 miles away to San Francisco. Gone will be our lunch dates and playing a completive game of cribbage with Jim. I won't hear his laughter as they battle one strategy against each another. And I will miss his approach to life, taking each day as it comes.

Yes, I can visit him up in the city but will it be the same? Will it be as carefree and relaxing as sitting having lunch with him at High Street Deli? He has lived in lots of different places and adjusted very well and I will be fine. I just feel torn between so much happiness for him and a loss from his having lived in the same town for five years.

I know that I am being self-indulgent right now. He IS a grown man, making HIS way through HIS life. It's just that time has gone by so fast and I just want to slow it down...

Thanks for listening...

Hugs,

Elaine

14 comments:

Sue said...

Awww. I feel for you. I know you what what is best for him and his new career. But at the same time we parents always want our kids close by. I feel the same way about mine.
I hope you will be able to make many visit up to see him.

Hugs to you,
Sue

Patchwork Penguin said...

What a handsome young man! I am right there with you dear... my oldest is finishing law school this spring, while her first job will only be an hour away... the thought of packing up her belongings (like her stuffed penguin collection) is something I push to the back of my mind on a daily basis. No need to apologize for sharing.... I think all mom's feel this way when the babies grow up.

Hugs!

roberta said...

I know how you feel. My boy is graduating from high school this year. He has so many ideas and plans. I am excited for him with the world all spread out in front of him, but sad for me because our relationship is certain to change, in some ways good, some ways bad. Mixed emotions describes it perfectly.

Barb said...

What a handsome young man....and ooooooo how my heart hurts for you. It is not easy, not easy at all...will be thinking of you.

karenfae said...

I do feel for you - my older daughter lives only a little more than an hour from me but is so busy I rarely see her. My younger daughter lives 14 hours from me!! I only see her about 2 times a year. Yes we have good visits when we visit but I so wish it was more often. My younger daughter has lived far from me for years as her husband had been in the military and they were always a distance and now several states away - they had to go where the job was after the military=- but where you get used to it =it doesn't mean you like it.
Karen
http://karensquilting.com/blog/

Jeanne Lex said...

Elaine, What a handsome boy you have ! Congratulations for raising such an accomplished young man. Remember he's only 250 miles away -that's only a little over 3 hours by car. Think of all the fun you'll have exploring SF and all the quilt shops (and Ghiradelli chocolate) there !
But I do know how you feel 'cause my youngest is 995 miles away ! Tears !
And sew on...
~ Jeanne

Jennifer said...

We raise them to be independent adults then are unhappy when they fly away.....can't have it both ways, can we? Our younger son lives in Canada (we are in Australia) so we don't see him very often. 250 miles is nothing!

Rosa Robichaud said...

Handsome?!?!?

He's not handsome - he's drop dead GORGEOUS!!!!

When I first saw his thumbnail picture, on my blog... honest to GOD... I thought you were blogging about some movie you had seen and that he was the main actor!!!

*VBG*

Elaine, I feel for you and your son moving on. Kinda funny, in a way, though. We raise them and try to teach them to think on their own and cook and clean and become responsible adults, eventually... and when they ARE at that point, we really want to turn back the clock and start over again - almost. *s*

Thinking of you...

Rosa

Mimi said...

Visiting him will not be the same but will still be unique....and will be new memories of time shared. I use to drive 200 miles to have lunch with my daughter .... of course I was 10 years younger then.

Now I would love to know more about cribbage strategy..... it has been a long time since I have played, but I don't remember strategy???

quiltmom said...

Elaine,
Like you we have one son and it is hard sometimes to let them fly- What our head knows is the best thing for them may not sit as well with our heart. It sometimes feels like they have grown up so fast.
You will enjoy your trips to San Francisco - it is a beautiful city. I am sure he will enjoy his new life and miss being with his family too.
Sending you a big cyber hug,
Regards,
Anna

Frummie said...

I know what you are going thru, Elaine. That is why I try to fly up to see Jackie and family every month or 2. The telephone and Skype just won't do. But on a happy note, just 18 or 19 days until you see me...LOL
Love
Frummie

Elly D said...

I agree with Rosa... Drop dead gorgeous! ;)
Sending your BIG CYBER HUGS! I feel for you Elaine. My DS just lives a 5 minute drive to the otherside of town and I miss him. It's always hard when he's been around for a visit and I drive him home. I always get a lump in my throat driving home again.
Hugs
Ellyx

Dee M said...

Handsome fella! Best of luck to him. You and he will enjoy each others company as always even if it won't be as often as before. My nearest kids are over 200 milles away, too.

Dixie said...

Ahh, I have shared the same mixed emotions that you are going through right now. My 25 year old daughter also lives in San Francisco, and she loves living there. Such an exciting place for our children to live and experience! We live in Sacramento, so get to visit her pretty often, and she loves picking out the restaurant for lunch or showing us the new places she has discovered. You will have so much fun visiting your son and sharing in his discoveries too!